Ep138 The 6 mindset blocks Millionaire Women have mastered

In today's episode of Her Empire Builder podcast, I go through the 6 mindset blocks Millionaire Women have mastered to get them to where they are today. 

I am so lucky that my days are spent with super successful women. And so I get to hear their thoughts, their dreams, and of course, their fears. And I was asked recently, "what do you think sets the successful women apart?" and this is why I have come up with these 6 points, is because it does take a different mindset shift, but it is something that each individual needs to work on in order to get them to the next level. It's not an over night thing, and it takes a lot of practice, but anyone can do it - if you have the drive to go bigger and live the life that you have always dreamed of. 

So, let's get into it:

1. Set your boundaries

I know I know, we've all heard it before. But, setting your boundaries early on in the piece is so vital for your business, everyone around you and your future self will love you so much for it. I think one of the biggest limitations when it comes to setting boundaries is fear. So many of us think, well if I say no to this opportunity then people will think I am too good for them, or, if I take my foot off the gas for just one minute then everything is going to fall down around me. The truth is, it's not going to fall down. In fact, it's going to speed up and get bigger. Protecting your energy and time is the single most important thing you can do as a business owner, and saying no to some things, or pushing back on people contacting you out of hours, or asking to "chew your ear quickly" without paying for your time, is OK. In fact, it's better than ok. Because you are allowing yourself to preserve your energy to dream bigger and go bigger. I promise you, your future self will thank you. 

2. Not doing everything

If something in your life is causing you stress more than joy. Get rid of it! I don't like cooking or cleaning, I never have, and I know that my time can be spent doing better more impactful things. So, I simply got rid of it out of my life. I outsource my laundry, and I have a wonderful husband who does the cooking. One of the most common things I get asked, is if I feel guilty for doing that. The simplest answer is absolutely not. Being open to receiving help is so important. If you don't like doing the cleaning or cooking in your household, then don't! Drop the martyr of motherhood and don't be a hero. Joy is more important than stressing yourself out, and if you want to do amazing things in the world, then there is only a certain amount of time and energy that you have and you are going to have to choose really consciously what you are going to give that to. And look, if you love cooking, then stick with it! 

3. Surround yourself with expanders

Who you choose to surround yourself with plays a huge role in how you think and act within your life and business. In my mastermind, Her Empire Builder, we have so many incredible women in there that the community we have built is second to none. When you surround yourself with highly ambitious people, then in terms of what you accept for yourself, what your attitudes are, what your beliefs are, all of those different things are shaped by the people around you.  A couple of months ago, I found myself asking myself if I wanted to go bigger or if I wanted to just stay where I am. Truthfully, I'd lost a little bit of that drive, which isn't always such a bad thing. I started thinking about where I wanted to go next, and started feeling like I was thinking a bit too big. I had a lot of people around me that were telling me I might want to tone it down a bit. So I started believing that for a second. But, then! I got together with this group of women who are all pushing eight figures and I realised I was thinking so small, and seeing what was possible for them, I got off the call and was so pumped. And that, my friends is what a really good mastermind actually does for you.

4. Manage your money

I'm not talking about money mindset here (yes, that is extremely important) but, I am more talking about the tangible things when it comes to money. You need to read about it, learn about it, grow it know it. You absolutely must know and understand your figures. I mean, I start simple. One of my favourite magazines is Money Magazine and I've been reading it for years, learning, because you don't know until you read it. Like we don't know about different investments and what ETFs are and shares and property and what trends in the market are doing and and what we should do with our money. I was talking to a lady a couple of weeks ago, and she said "I've got more than a million dollars sitting in cash in the bank and I don't know what to do with it, I am too scared to touch it". I was so shocked. 

Mel Browne has my favourite money course. My Financial Adulting teaches you all about investing shares, property, everything, bank accounts, all the different things that you can do. You need to start educating yourself on money and start buying commodities - make money fun! I remember the first time I bought gold, I thought how fun! But, I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't have read like and learnt about it in Money Magazine. 

5. Serve others massive value

It doesn't matter what industry you're in. If you bring others joy and success, you will get joy and success. I see the results that my clients are getting and they're amazing. I know that I am making such an impact, changing their lives and changing the whole story of what they're capable of. Now I want to help more people, I want more people to be able to have that impact. I want more women to become the breadwinners of their families and have more freedom of choice and live the life that they've always dreamed of. And so in order to do this I need to grow. It's not about the money anymore, and it's not so much about me anymore. It's about the impact and I wholeheartedly believe in that. And you know, when it's no longer about the money and you start thinking I just want an enriched life that makes me feel fulfilled and alive and matters, that is the turning point there. 

6. Work on your beliefs

One of the most interesting things I have seen with women course creators when they reach their goal and their dreams do come true, is that they wig out. They start asking themselves if it's too good to be true. Do I deserve this? Am I good enough? We are so engrained with thinking that if it seems to good to be true then it probably is, right? But the things is life is meant to be good. What if we didn't have to sacrifice? What if we didn't have to struggle? So that's really been something that I've been working on is going well, what if we could let go the hustle and the grind? What if it was easy? What would that look like? Is that even possible? These are the questions that you need to ask yourself when you are looking at what you believe in, and what you have been told to believe is true, and start shifting them to better align with what it is you actually want, and what it is you believe to be true. Because, you will find that as soon as you start changing your beliefs, your mind will open up and all of these opportunities will start appearing that you would have previously been closed off to and never known they were there. 

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