Ep124 How to live life unapologetically

Sorry, is a word that a lot of women get very used to saying a lot. It's amazing to me, especially with women in business, how much guilt we all carry around and how we feel we need to somehow be apologetic about following our dreams in life. 

Over the last few years, I have implemented some significant mindset shifts so that I stop apologising for being me and chasing my dreams, and I want to share them with you so that you can start to create your own boundaries and start living a life unapologetically and filled with so much joy just as you deserve.

1. Switching off on the weekends to rest my mind and my body

One of the best things that I did that I only did at the beginning of this year was I bought a second phone. It's been one of the most practical things that I have done. This second phone now has a different number that only 20 or so people have, and I can use it on the weekends without getting bombarded with work calls or work notifications from social media. I still want to be contactable to my friends and family, but what I found was that I was switching off on the weekend and then missing out on what was going on in their lives. Hence, the two phones. It allows me to rest and rejuvenate so that then when the new week comes around, I'm like firing I am ready to go, I'm ready to serve and ready to show up.

2. Not responding to messages straight away.

These days, there are so many avenues for people to get in touch with you. Whether it is through messages, facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp, linkedin, clubhouse, tik tok, email, the list goes on! When you are first starting out in business, any message is welcomed with open arms - you want to talk to people about how you can potentially work with them woohoo! But, if you don't put boundaries in place, you will find that your time is spent answering people and letting people "chew your ear" for a bit of advice, all day every day. Which not only is unfair to yourself, but also your paying customers! If people want to talk to you, don't feel bad about leading them down the pathway of paying for your time.

3. Sticking to those boundaries.

It's all very well and good having these boundaries, but unless you actually stick to them, they become worthless. Don't feel bad about sticking to these carefully thought out boundaries. It's going to allow you to show up, serve your customers well and with thought, be present with your family and friends, and generally allow you to live your life with more joy. 

4. I will not apologise for not fitting the traditional mould of what I should be.

I have spent so much of my life apologising for how I want to live my life, and something that I would catch myself doing is minimising what I do or how I feel or how I live my life, because I don't want to upset others. One of the things that I decided a couple of years ago was I was going to unapologetically live my life in all its beautiful glory with the ups and downs and everything in between. And I don't fit the traditional mould of of what I should be. I mean I don't do laundry. I cook only once a week, I spend a lot of time on my own in my garden playing piano, I spend all of my free time if I'm not doing that with my kids, I don't want to clean. That is how I choose to design my life, and I don't want or need to apologise for that and neither do you.

5. I won't say sorry for saying no to an opportunity that I don't want.

Saying no to an opportunity that you don't want is something that takes practice. And it's something that can sound so easy, but it is so hard to actually do sometimes. But I bet you have a few things that come to mind straight away that you've said yes to doing that you really wish you hadn't. Saying no to the things you don't want to do is going to give you the time and the freedom to be able to say yes to the things that you do want and creating the space for the things that you do want and the things that are going to serve the world and the things that are going to bring you a lot of joy.

6. Prioritising health and happiness

What I've like done in my years and years of runnings businesses is, I've said no to health, because I wanted to be able to serve people more. One of the things that I've really been working on lately is saying no to things and go and do what I have previously viewed as unproductive and work on my health. Because I know that if I'm not healthy, I'm good for nobody, I can't show up and serve anyone.

7. Getting eight hours of sleep a night

We we need to be able to rest and recover. A lot of people will survive on you know, six hours sleep or whatever it is and think that they're functioning fine, because they've forgotten how to function with a full night's sleep. If you want to show up with big energy, if you want to do big things, if you want your brain to function on this beautiful high level, then you need to let it rest.

So tell me, reading all of this, what are you going to stop apologising for? 

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